by Sheela Szymkowiak, Certified Reflexologist and Holistic Health Educator
“Oh soul,
you worry too much.
You have seen your own strength.
You have seen your own beauty.
You have seen your golden wings.
Of anything less,
why do you worry?
You are in truth the soul, of the soul, of the soul.”
- Rumi, 13th Century Muslim Poet, Theologian and Sufi Mystic
Learn how to enhance your own sexual energy first by practicing these wonderful acupressure points on yourself – meet the Beloved within! Once mastered by you, you can then share these ancient secrets with a Beloved partner.
Third Eye (Governing Vessel Acupoint 24.5)
Benefits: Enhances your relationship with your Higher Self and that of your partner. Boosts your self-esteem in all relationships.
Location: Directly between the eyebrows, in the indentation where the bridge of the nose meets the forehead. Also known as the Third Eye Chakra, and Governing Vessle Acupoint 24.5.
To activate the Third Eye by yourself: As you can see in the photo, bring your hands together in the prayer position, and allow your fingertips to press gently into your Third Eye. Breathe deeply and slowly into this area to ease the worries of The Mind and focus on thoughts of Positive Love.
With a partner: Lightly touch your partner’s Third Eye acupoint with your middle fingertip; encourage your partner to breathe slowly and deeply into this area. Next kiss this area softly and gently suck the skin of the Third Eye area to heighten all sensations that surface here.
Supporting Nourishment (CV 24)
Benefits: Relaxes the facial muscles and enhances the awareness of your lips and your partner’s. A very erotic point when repeatedly kissed here!
Location: In the indentation midway between the centre of the lower lip and chin. Also known as the Throat Chakra and Conception Vessel 24.
To activate CV 24 by yourself: Use your index fingertip pad; gently massage in a counterclockwise direction to release any tension and Chi stagnation while breathing deeply. Don’t be shy with yourself – add a favorite taste of a sensual food to please!
With a partner: To increase the sensual energetic ‘jolt’ along this meridian begin with gently kissing this acupoint, then move into sucking the skin here. Even with your clothes on activation of Chi flow in this way is immensely erotic for you and partner. The intensity of your suction can communicate, without any words, how much you desire your Beloved.
Sea of Tranquility (CV 17) (see diagram above)
Benefits: Gently holding and caressing this acupoint opens the heart’s physical chamber within and its Energy Centre (Chakra), too. Balance your own and partner’s emotional health, and increase emotional intimacy.
Location: On the centre of the breastbone (4 finger widths up from the base of the bone), just above the nipple level. Also known as the Heart Chakra.
To activate CV 17 by yourself: Press your index and middle fingertip gently on this acupoint, massaging counterclockwise to release any stagnation within this meridian. Keep breathing slowly and deeply into your chest area; if you use both hands over your chest/breasts, you will be touching your nipples with love and care.
With a partner: Taking turns of being on top allows each partner to kiss and gently suck the skin on this acupoint. Snuggling together, breastbone to breastbone, also powerfully enhances the energetic blending of these powerful heart connection acupoints.
Rushing Door (Spleen 12) and Mansion Cottage (Spleen 13)
Benefits: To increase a woman’s sexual desire and libido; Assists the man in healing sexual impotence; Increases Chi, Lymph and Blood flow back to the pelvic region of the body after emotional, mental and physical trauma.
Location: In the pelvic area, in the middle of the crease where the leg joins the trunk of the body. Also known as the Root Chakra.
To activate by yourself: While lying on your back, gently place the palm of your hands, with fingers pointing on an angle down, on the groin crease where your thighs join the trunk of your body. Inhale/exhale deeply and slowly imagining the colour Red bathing and healing this entire region of your body.
With a partner: Repeat what you would do for yourself, with your partner, except you are there to guide them into breathing deeply and slowly, then imagining the colour Red bathing them gently in a healing way. Of course when your hands are placed on your partner’s pelvic area with love and sensual thoughts, all erotic and physical sensations increase.
The bonus of gently taking your time here with these acupoints is assisting the release of built up emotional frustrations from your partner. If we are experiencing pelvic pain and/or discomfort, it may have originated from one of these situations:
- Ongoing resentment in your intimate relationship,
- A work situation in which you deal with frustration and disappointment regularly,
- Living with a sense of dread because of a general psychological tendency to jump to catastrophic conclusions.
For more info: Tantra for Awakening
Further Reading:
Acupressure for Lovers by Michael Reed Gach
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand